- Erectile Dysfunction
What to do if your partner has erectile dysfunction
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There's no denying that erectile dysfunction (ED) can have a big impact on your sex life. But it can often be treated, depending on the underlying cause. ED may be an indication of an underlying medical condition. Therefore, it’s important to see your doctor and have your ED investigated. In this article, we discuss how you can support each other on the journey to seeking treatment for ED.
Many people experience erection problems from time to time, especially during periods of stress. However, if getting or maintaining an erection is an ongoing problem for your partner, this is called erectile dysfunction.
Is ED normal?
Erectile dysfunction is a sign of an underlying issue of some sort and is often due to an imbalance in the body. So, in this sense, ED is not ‘normal’, particularly when it occurs in younger men. Pfizer reports the following percentages for people with ED:
- Persons aged 20 to 40: 5%
- Persons aged 40 to 70: 14%
- Persons aged 70 to 80: 42%
Causes of ED
In younger people, ED is caused mostly by psychological reasons, such as:
- Performance anxiety
- Fear of failure
- Body insecurities
- Relationship problems
- Stress, depression or burnout
For more information, please read our article on psychological complexity.
In older men, ED usually has a physical cause, such as:
- Arteriosclerosis
- High blood pressure
- High cholesterol
- Diabetes
- Low testosterone
- Thyroid problems
- Excess weight/obesity
- Smoking, use of alcohol or drugs
- Medication
How can you support your partner?
When erectile dysfunction is caused by psychological triggers, it is important to work on open communication in your relationship. Is work stressing our partner out? Then try to find ways to relax together. Don't put extra pressure on your partner if he is insecure about his performance. Focusing too much on getting an erection could make it difficult to get one. Try to create a relaxed atmosphere instead. If this is doesn’t help, it might be the right time to see a doctor or a sex therapist.
It is important to note that ED can also have a physical source, which is why getting yourself examined by a doctor is the foremost thing you should do. They can rule out or identify any underlying conditions, such as diabetes or heart problems, in a timely manner. If your ED is a sign of an underlying condition, they can refer you to a specialist, such as a urologist, counsellor or sex therapist. When it comes to ED, communication is key. But remember, support your partner, don’t force it.
Doctoronline United Kingdom is the go-to place for professional and discreet advice on erectile dysfunction, urinary problems or testosterone deficiency. On our website, you and your partner can find information and support. Your partner has to make an appointment for an online consultation personally, but you are welcome to join him when consulting with the doctor.
Let your partner book an online consultation at Doctoronline here.