10 tips for men to last longer in bed

On 4 September, we mark World Sexual Health Day (WSHD). Sexual problems are still, unfortunately, often taboo subjects. And yet sexual health is a vital part of our general health and something which should not be taken for granted. Today, we are discussing a common problem which many men struggle with (premature ejaculation) and the most common sexual problem for women (painful intercourse: five causes and solutions).

Between 25 and 60 per cent of men suffer from premature ejaculation. For many men, this means that they reach climax sooner than they would like, or that they are unable to delay ejaculation. This can affect how long sexual intercourse lasts, and may make sex less enjoyable. According to doctors, premature ejaculation is typically defined as a man reaching climax within 30 to 120 seconds of penetration. Some men are so sensitive that they cannot be touched on the penis, or they reach climax even before their penis has entered a woman’s vagina. Obviously, this can have a devastating effect on a couple’s sex life and their relationship.

n the past, premature ejaculation was thought to be entirely psychological. This is possibly why it is still a taboo subject – which, unfortunately, is true of many psychological disorders and problems. Although psychological factors such as feelings of shame, anxiety, insecurity or stress can certainly affect sexual performance, there is also growing evidence that factors such as diabetes, obesity, hypersensitivity or genetic characteristics can make some men more prone to experiencing premature ejaculation. Although there is no single cure for premature ejaculation, a doctor can offer personalised advice and prescribe medication if required.

Would you like to try to tackle it yourself first? Here are 10 tips to help you last longer in bed.

1. Take your mind off things. You can delay your orgasm by thinking about something else when you’re on the verge of climaxing. Take a deep breath and focus on something that isn’t ‘sexy’.
2. Take a break. Withdraw your penis as soon as you feel the urge to ejaculate. Take a few deep breaths and wait until your arousal subsides. Then get back to making love.
3. Squeeze the penis. Squeeze the penis in the area between the shaft and the glans for about 10 to 20 seconds just before you are about to ejaculate. Note: this technique shouldn’t cause any pain. Repeat this process as often as necessary.
4. Masturbate (more often). This will enable you to practise delaying your ejaculation.
5. Take care of your partner. Longer foreplay can help increase your partner’s satisfaction and delay your ejaculation.
6. Talk about your fears or worries. Talking about your performance anxiety will encourage your partner to be more understanding and considerate of your feelings. Opening up can also help ease some of your worries or make you feel less insecure.
7. Feeling stressed? Make sure you’re relaxed before making love. There are many things you can do to relax, such as taking exercise or reading a book.
8. Learn how to control yourself using breathing techniques. Breathe calmly and focus on the sound of your breath. Slow, deep breathing will help keep your heart rate low and allow you to focus your thoughts.
9. Reduce sensitivity using creams. Apply to the glans 10 minutes before intercourse. Be sure to wash the cream off before having sex, as it may cause your partner’s vagina to go numb.
10. Relax! Letting your problems with premature ejaculation get blown out of proportion can cause major problems in your sex life and your enjoyment of sex. However difficult it may be, try to accept the situation as it is and enjoy being intimate with your partner.

Doctoronline hopes you have a great time!

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